{"id":35424,"date":"2014-01-15T19:14:06","date_gmt":"2014-01-15T19:14:06","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.mixedracestudies.org\/wordpress\/?p=35424"},"modified":"2014-01-15T19:14:06","modified_gmt":"2014-01-15T19:14:06","slug":"a-tie-that-binds-across-cultures","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/?p=35424","title":{"rendered":"A Tie That Binds Across Cultures"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong><em><a href=\"http:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2014\/01\/10\/booming\/a-tie-that-binds-across-cultures.html\" target=\"_blank\">A Tie That Binds Across Cultures<\/a><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<p>The New York Times<br \/>\n2014-01-10<\/p>\n<p><em><a href=\"http:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/pages\/booming\/index.html\" target=\"_blank\">Booming\u2019s <\/a>\u201cMaking It Last\u201d column profiles baby boomer couples who have been together 25 years or more. <\/em><\/p>\n<p>Bob and Chiyoko Bermant met in 1973 as graduate students at the University of Kansas. Bob was majoring in psychology, and Chiyoko, who is Japanese, was studying linguistics. They married in 1974 before moving to Waukesha, Wis., where Bob is a <a href=\"http:\/\/wak.uat.uwex.uwc.edu\/Faculty-Staff\/Departments\/Psychology\/Bob-Bermant.aspx\" target=\"_blank\">professor at the local University of Wisconsin campus<\/a>. Chiyoko works as a docent at the <a href=\"http:\/\/www.tenchimneys.org\/\" target=\"_blank\">Ten Chimneys Estate<\/a> and does Japanese-English translations for a local martial arts master. The couple has one adult son.<\/p>\n<p><strong>How did you meet?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Bob: She was looking for help with English grammar for her papers. One of my roommates was Japanese and told her I would help.<\/p>\n<p>Chiyoko: Bob asked me to come to their apartment. I thought he was going to write in red ink where I had missed an \u201cs\u201d or the first person and it turned out he very thoroughly and patiently went over the paper with me&#8230;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Did you face prejudice as a mixed-race couple in the Midwest?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Bob: The only thing I remember was in Lawrence right after we were engaged we went into a Denny\u2019s and they wouldn\u2019t serve us. We just walked out.<\/p>\n<p><strong>How about Chiyoko\u2019s parents?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Chiyoko: From the beginning my mother said that it would not work and nothing I could say or do changed her determination until the end of her life. That does not mean she didn\u2019t like Bob. She saw me as a kind of war bride or mail-order bride.<\/p>\n<p>My parents were divorced and my father was more open-minded. Once we were married, he just wanted to know when he was going to have a grandchild&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Read the entire interview <a href=\"http:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2014\/01\/10\/booming\/a-tie-that-binds-across-cultures.html\" target=\"_blank\">here<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>A Tie That Binds Across Cultures The New York Times 2014-01-10 Booming\u2019s \u201cMaking It Last\u201d column profiles baby boomer couples who have been together 25 years or more. Bob and Chiyoko Bermant met in 1973 as graduate students at the University of Kansas. Bob was majoring in psychology, and Chiyoko, who is Japanese, was studying [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[12,16,13743,20],"tags":[16769,16768,2640,2327],"class_list":["post-35424","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-articles","category-asia","category-interviews","category-usa","tag-bob-bermant","tag-chiyoko-bermant","tag-new-york-times","tag-the-new-york-times"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/35424","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=35424"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/35424\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=35424"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=35424"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=35424"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}