{"id":40171,"date":"2015-02-28T03:30:26","date_gmt":"2015-02-28T03:30:26","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.mixedracestudies.org\/wordpress\/?p=40171"},"modified":"2019-01-21T18:35:07","modified_gmt":"2019-01-21T18:35:07","slug":"dont-ask-what-my-child-is","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/?p=40171","title":{"rendered":"Don’t Ask “What” My Child Is"},"content":{"rendered":"

Don’t Ask “What” My Child Is<\/strong><\/em><\/a><\/p>\n

DAME<\/a>
\n2015-02-11<\/p>\n

Elizabeth Dougherty<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n

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The writer is White. Her husband is Black. And there are many people who feel entitled to accost the couple with unsolicited opinions about their biracial son.<\/em><\/p>\n

\u201cMommy, I\u2019m almond, you\u2019re white chocolate, and Daddy\u2019s dark chocolate.\u201d Talking about sunblock with my 6-year-old son, Carter, had turned into a discussion about skin color, and I guessed correctly that his kindergarten class was talking about it, too.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m White, and by husband is African American. Before Carter was even conceived, I started reading books about raising biracial children I fully expected a child of ours would look more like Jeff. I braced myself for people mistaking me for an adoptive mom or a nanny.<\/p>\n

Then I had a nearly ten-pound baby boy with pale skin, a head full of silky black curls, and my dark-blue eyes down to the same golden streak in the left one. It had never occurred to me that the opposite would happen: People would mistake Jeff\u2019s White friend as Carter\u2019s dad.<\/p>\n

Carter\u2019s striking eyes and soft curls get lots of random attention. Without asking, strangers often touch his hair. (As a toddler, one day, he got so tired of saying \u201cThank-you\u201d to people who complimented his curls, he simply said, \u201cI know.\u201d)…<\/p>\n

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The writer is White. Her husband is Black. And there are many people who feel entitled to accost the couple with unsolicited opinions about their biracial son.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[12,414,8,20],"tags":[29287,19448,19449],"class_list":["post-40171","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-articles","category-family","category-media-archive","category-usa","tag-dame","tag-dame-magazine","tag-elizabeth-dougherty"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/40171","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=40171"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/40171\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":57330,"href":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/40171\/revisions\/57330"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=40171"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=40171"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=40171"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}