{"id":40532,"date":"2015-03-20T19:25:15","date_gmt":"2015-03-20T19:25:15","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.mixedracestudies.org\/wordpress\/?p=40532"},"modified":"2015-09-09T19:45:31","modified_gmt":"2015-09-09T19:45:31","slug":"what-are-you-thats-none-of-your-business","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/?p=40532","title":{"rendered":"“What Are You?” That’s None of Your Business"},"content":{"rendered":"

“What Are You?” That’s None of Your Business<\/strong><\/em><\/a><\/p>\n

Multiracial Asian Families<\/a>
\n2015-03-20<\/p>\n

Sharon H. Chang<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n

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A couple months ago I got cornered big time by a stranger and their “What are you?” mind-meld. The unsolicited probing went on for a while. Honestly something I’m used to. But this time was crazy multidimensional and unique in a way I don’t know I’ve ever experienced. It involved not only me, but my child, and then HER mixed children by comparison. This stranger just couldn’t resist wanting to know my and my son’s specific mixes, explained her husband was “American,” then wondered out loud if her son would one day look like my son and if her daughter would one day look like me. I was declared white-looking while my son was judged Asian-looking. A picture of her own children was then shown proudly with seeming expectation for praise (which I uncomfortably indulged). There was also some lecturing\/instruction on how I should feel about my particular Asian heritage (which she shares) and why I should<\/em> be able to afford visiting my paternal homeland (which I actually can’t). Finally, because she felt this exchange had laid the groundwork for connectivity, she asked to exchange info and wanted to set up a play date.<\/p>\n

First let’s be clear. I don’t doubt the well-meaning and friendly intention of this stranger. I understand that my son and I were visually assessed as having something in common with her which could potentially be the beginning of shared interest. I understand this stranger probably felt her comments were sincere, genuine, even complimentary, and that we would receive them as kind, welcoming and affirming. But here is an important racial truth — there’s a big difference between intention versus impact<\/strong> in inter-race relations. Much of what was said in this exchange was actually incredibly egocentric, driven centrally by one person’s self-interested compulsion (I-need-to-know-I-have<\/em>-to-know) and seemingly little to no consideration for how my son and I might feel like zoo animals…<\/p>\n

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