{"id":48314,"date":"2016-07-19T00:38:11","date_gmt":"2016-07-19T00:38:11","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.mixedracestudies.org\/?p=48314"},"modified":"2016-07-19T00:38:11","modified_gmt":"2016-07-19T00:38:11","slug":"i-can-no-longer-call-my-husbands-racism-unconscious-it-was-unchallenged-now-we-both-live-with-the-challenge-of-what-that-means-and-how-he-needs-to-continue-to-change-and-grow","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/?p=48314","title":{"rendered":"I can no longer call my husband\u2019s racism unconscious. It was unchallenged. Now we both live with the challenge of what that means and how he needs to continue to change and grow."},"content":{"rendered":"<blockquote><p>For a long time, I gave white people the benefit of the doubt. I told myself that they didn\u2019t know what they were doing. They were ignorant. If only we explained it to them, helped them relate, then they\u2019d understand. Over the past three years I\u2019ve seen explanation after explanation and still people deny racism. They deny profiling. They deny persecution of Black people. They deny and when they can\u2019t deny, they lie. It was in the past six months that I finally accepted that all of this is 100% deliberate, including the \u201cignorance.\u201d It is willful. It is a choice.<\/p>\n<p>My denial of this was the only thing that made me feel slightly safe in this world. It was what helped me stay optimistic about the future and aided me in giving white people the benefit of the doubt. I don\u2019t give them the benefit of the doubt anymore. Now I just understand that if they aren\u2019t challenging racism, they support it. I can no longer call my husband\u2019s racism unconscious. It was unchallenged. Now we both live with the challenge of what that means and how he needs to continue to change and grow.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>TaLynn Kel, \u201c<a href=\"http:\/\/www.mixedracestudies.org\/?p=48308\" target=\"_blank\">The Danger Of Unchallenged Racism In Interracial Relationships<\/a>,\u201d <em>The Establishment<\/em>, July 18, 2016. <a href=\"http:\/\/www.theestablishment.co\/2016\/07\/18\/the-danger-of-unchallenged-racism-in-interracial-relationships\/\" target=\"_blank\">http:\/\/www.theestablishment.co\/2016\/07\/18\/the-danger-of-unchallenged-racism-in-interracial-relationships\/<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>For a long time, I gave white people the benefit of the doubt. I told myself that they didn\u2019t know what they were doing. They were ignorant. If only we explained it to them, helped them relate, then they\u2019d understand. Over the past three years I\u2019ve seen explanation after explanation and still people deny racism. [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[3],"tags":[24511,22055],"class_list":["post-48314","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-excerpts","tag-talynn-kel","tag-the-establishment"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/48314","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=48314"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/48314\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":48315,"href":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/48314\/revisions\/48315"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=48314"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=48314"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=48314"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}