{"id":52087,"date":"2017-03-06T01:55:50","date_gmt":"2017-03-06T01:55:50","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.mixedracestudies.org\/?p=52087"},"modified":"2017-03-06T01:57:57","modified_gmt":"2017-03-06T01:57:57","slug":"i-thought-i-was-prepared-to-marry-a-black-man-but-i-had-no-idea","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/?p=52087","title":{"rendered":"I Thought I Was Prepared to Marry a Black Man, But I Had NO Idea"},"content":{"rendered":"

I Thought I Was Prepared to Marry a Black Man, But I Had NO Idea<\/strong><\/em><\/a><\/p>\n

For Every Mom<\/a>
\n2017-03-05<\/p>\n

Chelsie Dort<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n

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I had no idea what racism was until I married a black man.<\/em><\/p>\n

It was a little over two and a half years ago, right before I was about to be married that I was asked the question, \u201cAre you prepared for what you and your family will experience seeing as how you are marrying a black man?\u201d Being a white girl raised in Salt Lake City, Utah<\/a> I was offended. The man I was speaking with took notice to my offense and simply said \u201cI don\u2019t mean to hurt you, I just wanted to make sure that you were aware that things will be different than I think you are expecting. Things will be harder.\u201d I explained that I was fine and that things were going to be great.<\/p>\n

Two and a half wonderful years later, our son is now 5 and our youngest is almost 2 and the woman that I am now often looks back at that day and wishes I could have understood what he meant. I wish I would have understood that my husband would be pulled from his car and handcuffed, placed face down on the ground and arrested while I watched his helpless face, all because he had recently expired tags on his car. I wish I would have known that people would accuse my husband of kidnapping our oldest son because he\u2019s white while simultaneously\u00a0praising me for being a saint who graciously adopted a little black boy. I wish I would have understood the mean words that can escape someone\u2019s lips when speaking about our mixed little family and the heartache that follows. I wish I would have used that time to consider how I would explain to my boys why people weren\u2019t always nice…<\/p>\n

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