{"id":60136,"date":"2020-09-11T01:56:47","date_gmt":"2020-09-11T01:56:47","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.mixedracestudies.org\/?p=60136"},"modified":"2020-09-11T01:56:49","modified_gmt":"2020-09-11T01:56:49","slug":"there-is-something-specifically-traumatic-about-listening-to-your-own-parent-expressing-prejudiced-views-against-people-who-look-like-you-and-denying-or-trivialising-your-existence","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/?p=60136","title":{"rendered":"There is something specifically traumatic about listening to your own parent expressing prejudiced views against people who look like you, and denying or trivialising your existence."},"content":{"rendered":"<blockquote><p>There is something specifically traumatic about listening to your own parent expressing prejudiced views against people who look like you, and denying or trivialising your existence. Unlike arguing with a stranger, it\u2019s almost impossible to completely disregard their opinion. Often, we can\u2019t help but care what they think. No matter how old we get, there exists in most of us a small child that still longs for validation from our parents. Accordingly, their words can shatter whatever anti-racism defences we have spent years carefully constructing. This isn\u2019t simply a matter of overlooking political differences, it is deeply personal. As Pauline tells me, her mother\u2019s \u201ccomplete lack of empathy and eagerness to learn from her own child\u201d is what she finds most hurtful.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Emma, \u201c<a href=\"http:\/\/www.mixedracestudies.org\/?p=60127\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">\u2018My mum calls me the N-word\u2019 \u2013 the reality of growing up mixed race with a racist parent<\/a>,\u201d <em>gal-dem<\/em>, September 5, 2020. <a href=\"https:\/\/gal-dem.com\/my-mum-calls-me-the-n-word-the-reality-of-growing-up-mixed-race-with-a-racist-parent\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">https:\/\/gal-dem.com\/my-mum-calls-me-the-n-word-the-reality-of-growing-up-mixed-race-with-a-racist-parent\/<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>There is something specifically traumatic about listening to your own parent expressing prejudiced views against people who look like you, and denying or trivialising your existence. Unlike arguing with a stranger, it\u2019s almost impossible to completely disregard their opinion. Often, we can\u2019t help but care what they think. No matter how old we get, there [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[3],"tags":[24052],"class_list":["post-60136","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-excerpts","tag-gal-dem"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/60136","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=60136"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/60136\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":60137,"href":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/60136\/revisions\/60137"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=60136"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=60136"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=60136"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}