{"id":62368,"date":"2021-11-26T01:06:56","date_gmt":"2021-11-26T01:06:56","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.mixedracestudies.org\/?p=62368"},"modified":"2021-11-26T01:06:56","modified_gmt":"2021-11-26T01:06:56","slug":"my-boyfriends-parents-are-ignorant-about-race-why-should-i-have-to-teach-them","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/?p=62368","title":{"rendered":"My Boyfriend\u2019s Parents Are Ignorant About Race. Why Should I Have to Teach Them?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2021\/11\/25\/style\/black-identity-social-qs.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><em><strong>My Boyfriend\u2019s Parents Are Ignorant About Race. Why Should I Have to Teach Them?<\/strong><\/em><\/a><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">The New York Times<\/a><br \/>\n2021-11-25<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/SocialQPhilip\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><strong>Philip Galanes<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2021\/11\/25\/style\/black-identity-social-qs.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/static01.nyt.com\/images\/2021\/06\/20\/fashion\/socialqs-2021-artwork\/socialqs-2021-artwork-superJumbo.jpg?quality=75&amp;auto=webp\" width=\"300\" border=\"0\" \/><\/a><br \/>\n<a href=\"https:\/\/miguelporlan.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><small>Miguel Porlan<\/small><\/a><\/p>\n<p><em>A reader seeks advice on dealing with people who undermine her experience as a mixed-race woman.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>I am a mixed-race college student and identify as Black. For a year, I\u2019ve been dating a white guy. We\u2019ve never had an issue with race \u2014 until now. When I met his parents for the first time, ahead of the family\u2019s big Thanksgiving feast, his father told me that being mixed race is \u201cthe best of both worlds.\u201d I didn\u2019t follow. So, he explained: You\u2019re \u201creally white,\u201d but you get the advantages of being Black in college admissions and diversity hiring. I was stunned! My boyfriend, on the other hand, doesn\u2019t see the problem. He says his parents are clueless about race, and it\u2019s our job to help them understand. But I\u2019m not interested in that job. I canceled my Thanksgiving visit, and now my boyfriend is mad at me. Advice?<\/em><\/p>\n<p>TRACEY<\/p>\n<p>Your boyfriend and his dad both owe you apologies, for different offenses&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Read the entire letter <a href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2021\/11\/25\/style\/black-identity-social-qs.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">here<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>A reader seeks advice on dealing with people who undermine her experience as a mixed-race woman.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[12,414,125,12566,8,20],"tags":[2640,23081,2327],"class_list":["post-62368","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-articles","category-family","category-identitydevelopment","category-letters","category-media-archive","category-usa","tag-new-york-times","tag-philip-galanes","tag-the-new-york-times"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/62368","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=62368"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/62368\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":62371,"href":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/62368\/revisions\/62371"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=62368"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=62368"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mixedracestudies.org\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=62368"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}