I’m The Black Mom Of A Kid Who Looks White, & Your Comments Hurt Both Of UsPosted in Articles, Family/Parenting, Media Archive, United States on 2017-07-24 00:53Z by Steven |
I’m The Black Mom Of A Kid Who Looks White, & Your Comments Hurt Both Of Us
Romper
2017-07-23
Courtesy of Sa’iyda Shabazz
When my son was born, he was pretty much as pale as his white dad. We were a bit surprised, but we also knew that’s just how genetics work sometimes. What really surprised us, however, were how people responded to seeing his skin color. No one could believe that I, as a black woman, had birthed such a white baby.
These questions continued throughout his life. People have asked me countless times whether I was my son’s babysitter or nanny, and once, when I was out with a white friend, the waitress asked her questions about him, because it never even entered her mind that he could have been mine. It was heartbreaking, and also infuriating.
Many white moms of mixed kids have told me that my perceptions of how people deal with my mixed kid are wrong, and that I’m being overly sensitive. But as a Black mom with a kid who looks white, I’m seen as taking up space, and I find it incredibly frustrating. No one knows what to do with me. Strangers look at me and then at my son, trying to find enough similarities between us to make the familial connection. Some will be bold enough to ask, “Is he yours?”…
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